..::What I Want::..

So...after reading a friends blog about what he wanted in a chick, I decided to write my own...tho I know people dont really read these things....but hey....its worth a shot. lol

~~What I Want~~

My number one thing has to be honesty. And I dont mean honesty just to me...but to his self. As I see it, before you can be true to someone else, you must be true to yourself. And a lot of people think they can do one without the other, and I dont feel you can because some where down the road it will come back in your face, and something will be said that you wish wasnt said. Or something along them lines. And one thing I cant stand is when someone tells you a lie because they dont think they can handle the truth. Well, its known that when you lie to someone, the truth will some how some way get to that person...then they will confront you...and then you will have to tell them the truth. And if they can go thru all that...then you could have just came out with the truth in the beginning.

Passion would be number two I believe. But not just passion to me...but passion about everything around him. But also I wanna see passion in his eyes, I wanna feel it when he hugs me...true passion. If there is something he wants to do in his life...something he wants to become...I guess I wanna see him go about it with passion...with a strong willed mind, and a determination to see it thru the end.

The nice guy. And when I say this...I mean it. I know every girl out there says "I want a nice, caring, sweet, down to earth guy" and then the next day you see them walking around the mall with a bad-ass, jerk face that doesnt really care about her...but just cares about being seen with her. And I mean a genuine nice guy. I hear it all the time when I start to like someone "Im a nice guy...I dont understand why girls look me over...I promise you, Im not like the others." Ok...I personally am tired of hearing this because every time I do...it turns into shit..and its nothing but a lie to get me in bed. There is one thing I will take from my first relationship and its how he use to always tell me "Show me you love me...dont tell me." I never understood that...but now I do. Words become just words when they are said so often...if you can say those words then prove it with actions...then theres nothing better but to see the love, hear the love, and feel the love.

Now, Im not in any order of what is best and what isnt...its just the first one is a major must...

Commitment. And this again doesnt just mean about me...but whatever it is he is doin in life...or what he is doing to get to that peek in life. If a guy has a dedication or a commitment about something other then me...then it shows what he could have towards me. And it also shows that commitment doesnt scare him. That the moment a girl says "I think love you" he goes running to the hills because he didnt want that. I understand rushing into things, I understand looking at her and telling her to cool her jets...but dont run. And I also believe those three words are tossed around WAY to much in this society. People say it way to much with no actions. Take your time...let that feeling of love wash over you. When you hold her breath when the phone rings cause you hope its him...then when you see it is you get giddy and have to take a few moments to calm yourself before you answer. Where you cant wait to be with that person even tho you saw him yesterday, when the thought of waking up next to them makes you smile because you want them there and they wouldnt wanna be anywhere else. You know...so on....

And absolutely does the guy have to have a sense of humor! I dont like uptight people who think they are better then others because of riches or parents. I want someone who can take a joke...let it be religious, racist, blonde, sex, or whatever. I am not saying to bash these things...but if you can joke about one set of people...you might as well be able to joke about them all. And again..there is a difference between joking..and taking things to far. And yet at the same time...he needs to know when to be serious. And this is not at all...all the time. Just when something serious pops up; I dont want jokes, I dont want laughs...I wanna talk about the seriousness, then when its settled, or talked thru..THEN make a joke to get me to smile.

And I think everyone needs to have goals, but since this is about me "dream" guy...he needs to have them. lol. And this is just some type of goal in life, or relationships, or just simply knowing what he wants in a girl (ok..maybe not JUST that...lol). Goals in life I believe are very important. I completely agree that people should take in the here and now, and live in the moment...but if you cant see ahead to the future and plan it, or work towards something you want....then you might as well sit at home all day doing nothing...cause in the future thats whats gonna happen. The future is as much of your life as the here and now, and if you dont look to it...then what are you looking towards at all?

I want a guy who isnt judgmental. Dont get me wrong...I like people watching, and I catch myself doing it all the time, but I dont do it in a judgmental type of a way...but more of a interested way. But this cause further then that...I mean homo-phobic, or racist. I cant stand people that are like that...have a sense of humor...be comfortable to joke about them and everything...but dont hate them because they are how they are and they cant change that. Not judging is something that also shows good character about ones self. And thats a major plus!

And of course sharing the same interests. This doesnt mean that if we completely hate the other person's favorite movie I wont date him..lol..but it means that if we completely cant agree with someone to watch on TV, or pop in the DVD player...then there's a problem. I want to be able to turn on my iPod and him sing along to some of the songs on there...to be able to watch football in the afternoon with me, family guy at night, the news in the morning and maybe some Ghost Hunters, or Star Trek Enterprise in the evening. I know...Im very diverse. lol.

In any type of relationship there needs to be a compromise. There is bond to be something that you are not gonna like about the person, but yet you do since its what makes them who they are...And if they are willing to love something about you that they dont necessarily like...then why cant you do the same? And not just that..but like...going to his place one day, yours the next...you know..things like that. I want a guy that knows how to do that.

I know there is more...but I think those are the highlights of what I am looking for. I hope one day I find him...*smiles innocently*